We each have a story. Your story is not bad but it is limiting. It disallows you to access your entire self says Ford. It is important to find out what your story is, this way you can make peace with it, extract it's vital ingredients, step out of the smallness and into the fulfillment of your greatest dreams.
When I was 8 years old and living in California. My house was up for sell. My mom had picked me up from school which got out a few hours before my sister's school. She left me home alone for about 10 minutes while she picked up my sister. Our house was up for sale and there was a lock box on the door for realtors to get in. I remember playing on the ground level when I started to hear the door being unlocked. (Usually my mom would enter in through the garage.) I became very scared and ran upstairs to my parent's closet. I could hear voices downstairs as I hid in the closet. Several minutes later my mom and sister came home. I was relieved. I found out it was a realtor showing some potential buyers. This is the moment a part of my story was created. I thought, "I'm not important enough for my mother to have told me that a realtor could come into the house." Basically, that "I'm not important enough." To this day I am usually the one to ask other people questions about themselves and to self-sacrifice my own desires for others. My belief is that I'm not important enough. I even go out of my way in my relationship to show how important I am. I make most of our social events, cook dinner, do laundry, try to make him laugh, spend time with him while sacrificing my time. Basically, showing my importance. It doesn't mean my actions are not genuine but I can see how my story has influenced my actions as an adult.
From my story you can tell that my shadow belief is that "I'm not important." What is your's? I'm not good enough. I don't matter. There is something wrong with me. Nobody likes me. I don't belong. Something's wrong with me. I'm too stupid. I'm incompetent. I'm unwanted. I'm not enough. I'm a doormat. I'm not special. I'm unworthy. I'm undeserving. I don't matter. I'm unimportant. I'm inappropriate. I'm inadequate. I'm insignificant, Everything is fine...
As Ford puts it, "We stepped out of the world of infinite possibility and stepped into the world of our own limited reality. This is where our troubles began and our limitations originated." We have all taken on a shadow belief. We live up to our shadow belief in our everyday lives. What is your shadow belief and what do you do to prove it to yourself and others?
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