Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Day 8: Making Peace with Your Story (Ford, Shadow)

     Many of us hold onto past mistakes and resentments.  This is only hurting us and our present lives.  As humans we continually punish ourselves instead of moving on and living the lives we deserve, without blame or hesitations.  Ford, in The Secret of Your Shadow, explains that we first need to forgive ourselves to move on.  This can only happen "when we relax into the vulnerability of our humanity and find compassion for our own internal struggles."  It has always been a guarantee for the human race that we will make mistakes.  It wasn't a guarantee that we should beat ourselves up for it.  Not at one moment were we ever expected by our creator to be perfect.  This life is about learning and creating healthy, forgiving relationships with ourselves and others.  Why not forgive yourself?
     Ford also says that we need to resolve any unfinished business.  My mom did a lot for me while I was growing up and I put her through a lot.  I feel that I need to repay her.  In order to balance the scales I will.  I've decided to spend more quality time with her.  Others may have stolen something from work and feel unresolved about it.  They could call their old employer and try to repay what they took.  In this way we are rebalancing our internal scales and resolving any unfinished business.  This is also vital to making peace with our story.  What past things have you done that you still feel uneasy about?  How can you balance your internal scales?

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